Face-to-Face Counselling for Shyness
You've probably already tried some version of this. The advice. The tips. Maybe even therapy before. And something shifted - for a while. Then you found yourself back in the same place. If that's where you are, I want to say something directly. You didn't fail the process. The process didn't go far enough.
Most support for shyness works on the surface, changing what you do in difficult situations without ever asking what's been driving it. You can learn to get through rooms and still be running the same thing underneath. Still paying the same cost. Still going home exhausted.
My work goes somewhere different.
What We Work On
I work with shy people in four stages - Decode, De-Shame, Reframe, Shyne.
Not a programme you follow. A process that's built around you - your unique history, your particular version of shyness, your own pace.
We start by reading what's actually running underneath your shyness. The beliefs absorbed so early they feel like facts. The rules handed to you before you had any say in them. The code running in the background that the tips, the courses, the previous therapy has ever thought to look at.
Then we put down what was never yours to carry. The shame. The verdict. The case you've been building against yourself for years. Then we see the full picture of who you are, not just the perceived deficiencies, but everything that came with being wired this way.
And then you move forward. On your own terms. At your own pace. By your own measure of what progress looks like.
What This is Not
This is not pushing yourself into uncomfortable situations and hoping something sticks. It's not tips for getting through the meeting, the party or the intro round more smoothly. It's not a confidence builder.
It's the work that changes not just what you do but how the whole thing feels. The monitoring that stops. The drive home replay that stops. The performance that stops. Not because you've practised your way out of something but because you finally understood what was running it.
Tariff
£80 per 50 min session.
If you've been looking for a different conversation - one that actually gets to the right level - I'm here. Get in touch to arrange a consultation.